We didn't even get a vague-sounding
one liner in the relatio.
Fighting the stigma of the unwed cat dad.
I go to Church alone.
Always have since grade school. My family is not religious. I was rejected as religious freak at the age of 7.
I never married. I couldn't... wouldn't
I have no kids. Thank God for them.
I had a dog when I was little. My parents drove him out to the country and left him. My dad said he needed a farm family. I watched him running after the car as my dad drove away.
I was alone.
As an adult in my first apartment I found a cat. I named him Pasha. I didn't want him in the apartment though, so I left him in the hallway. He left me.
I was alone.
I lived alone and never did very well... For I was ... lonely.
I got more cats - but I had to put them to sleep.
Then I got new cats and became attached. I loved them so much. They lighted up my life.
I cared for them, hugged them, cuddled with them, talked baby-talk to them - they even prayed with me.
But they weren't allowed in church. I went to Mass and adoration alone.
I didn't fit in.
No one understood what it was like.
Even priests made fun of me for being a cat freak - unmarried, creepy guy with cats.
I felt alone.
Frequently I was embarrassed by the cat hair on my dark Polo cashmere jacket with the crest on the pocket. People ignored the nice clothes, the sales tag hanging from the cuff, but laughed at the cat hair.
Do you people even understand what it is like to be a single cat dad? Where do I fit in in the Church? Cats are told they have no souls, that they are going to hell - or no where. As a cat-dad how can I deal with that invective and hatred?
People have no idea of the responsibility involved in parenting cats. The spaying, medical bills, Fancy Feast and treats bills. Cat school.
Then the loneliness. Cats can't speak English or human language. My cat meows and hisses and runs to the cupboard when she is hungry - that's my only communication - except when she licks my legs after I get out of the shower - otherwise I have no intimacy in my life.
Oh, sure! Make fun of cat people. I'd have a dog, but I would still go to church alone. They don't want animals at church.
FYI: I'm a stay at home cat dad too! Don't you dare tell me I don't work.
And yes, I get lonely too.
I deal with it though.
Song for this post here.
Deal with it.